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A Man of Great Character

Dad 1955I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. The only stability in that home was my Dad. He was the person who influenced my life the most while growing up. He showed me unconditional love, even through all the craziness of my teen years. I never really appreciated him until after he was gone. In honor of this remarkable man, this blog is to celebrate his life on what would be his 102nd Birthday.

Benjamin Douglas “Doug” Hughes was born in Pettis County, Missouri, August 18, 1915. The day he was born his Uncle who, was blind, died. His parents named him after this uncle. He was the 8th of 11 children born to Charley and Virginia Bell (Hayes) Hughes. They lived on a farm in rural Lexington, Missouri, raising all their food, and raising cows and award-winning horses. During the Great Depression of the 1930’s they were fortunate enough to not suffer as others did because they were self-sustaining. They shared what they had with others in the community and I believe this is where my Dad developed his giving spirit!

My Dad worked his entire life. He worked on the farm, planting and caring for the vegetables and fruit trees. He tended and milked the cows and he helped his Dad train

Dad and his horse

their horses. In 1934-35 my Dad participated in the Civilian Conservation Corp implemented by President Roosevelt. He served in Lake Tahoe, California. Here he learned to work with wood and stone masonry. These skills helped him the rest of his life. After the CCC he worked as a coal miner, worked on the railroads, he was a butcher and for the last 19 years of his life he worked in the construction field.

He was married 3 times; the first was when he was 22 years old in 1937. He married Mildred Shockley and they had a son Benjamin Benjamin died at 2 months old from Typhoid. Mildred was placed in a sanitarium and died 3 weeks later from the same thing. My Dad wasdad, mildred, lola devastated. He married a second time in 1944 to Mildred McQuillen. She had a daughter name Loretta whom my Dad accepted as his own. They never had children and I don’t know what happened but they divorced sometime before 1948. The third time was my Mother, Emmajane Smith in 1948. My Mother had a son, Gordon and once again my Dad took him as his own. My Dad and Mother had known each other for over 10 years because my Dad’s youngest sister Margaret and my Mother were best friends! My sister Mary Leella was born in 1951 and I was born four years later.

We left Missouri when I was 11 months old and moved to Southern Arizona. My parents bought a house on a corner lot in a new subdivision just outside the Tucson City limits. My Dad took pride in the yard. He taught me all I know about plants and landscaping. I loved spending time doing yard work and helping him build things. He laid bricks for planters, he built a large trellis for the patio. He poured the cement for the patio, he even made the lawn furniture and picnic table. I just loved being with him. He was always ready and willing to help any of our neighbors with whatever they needed. Everyone liked and respected him.  When I was 12 years old my Mother had a mental breakdown and the next 7 years were pure hell! My Dad refused to have her committed and he took care of her even through our moves back to Missouri for 2 years then out to California for 5 years. He showed me that you don’t give up on people because the situation is not ideal. He showed strength of character and resolve that I have always admired.

In the Fall of 1973 my Dad went to the doctor for a cough that wouldn’t go away. After many tests and x-rays we were told he had lung cancer. He had surgery to remove his right lung then endured several rounds of chemo and radiation therapy. He lived for 9 months and he passed away at home on June 24, 1974. He was 58 years old. This was 43 years ago and I still think about him every day. I still strive to be the kind of woman, wife, mother and Grandmother that would make him proud. I know that I am proud to be his daughter!

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, crafter, reader, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: http://tinyurl.com/Your-Family-History and http://tinyurl.com/Genealogy-Research-Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

 

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Now That Was a Surprise!

surprise 2When I first started my tree online I took some time and looked at how others organized theirs. I noticed that a lot of people capitalized the last name of a direct line ancestor and realizing that this is a great idea I started doing the same. It has made it easy to immediately identify a great or a great+ grandparent.

A couple of days ago I got a “leaf” on my 9 times Great Grandfather Jonathan Brewster. The hint wasn’t for my Jonathan but as I was looking over the timeline I have on him I noticed that 2 of his daughters had their last name capitalized. How in the world did I make that kind of mistake? I was almost positive that his daughter Grace was my 8 times Great Grandmother, so I forwarded through her line and indeed she is.

family tree 1I went back to the original page and began following her sister Hannah’s line. Odd, there were capitalized names going down her line also! Being the “sleuth” that I am I decided to follow this line as far as I could to see where it goes. Lo and behold, I didn’t have far to go.

I discovered that Hannah was also my 8 times Great Grandmother, but surprise, she was also my 8 times Great Aunt. That meant that Grace was also my 8 times Great Aunt.  I took a couple of minutes to let it sink in……. she’s my 8xG-Grandma…. she’s my 8xG-Aunt…they are both my 8xG-Grandmas AND 8xG-Aunts. Oh, the fun I had. Here is how this played out;

Grace m. Captain Daniel Wetherell      Hannah  m. Samuel Starr

Their daughter                                           Their son

Mary m. George Dennison                       Thomas m. Mary  Morgan

Their son                                                      Their daughter

Daniel Dennison m. his cousin Rachel Starr

 

This makes both Daniel and Rachel my 6 times Great Grandparents but they both are also my 1st Cousin 6 times removed!

This scenario reminds me of some bad jokes I have heard!

confused-smileyOut of curiosity I decided to randomly look for more of these types of anomalies in my trees. As of today, I have found 3 more “my Grandma is my Aunt” cases. The hunt continues!

 

Have you found any situations like this in your line?

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, crafter, reader, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: http://tinyurl.com/Your-Family-History and http://tinyurl.com/Genealogy-Research-Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

 

 

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66 Years Ago Today

Douglas and Margaret

Douglas and Margaret

My Mother, Emmajane Smith and my Dad’s sister Margaret Hughes met when they were 18 years old and living in Lexington Missouri. They became fast friends. During a visit to the Hughes Family Farm in 1937 my Mother met my Dad, Douglas Hughes. They really didn’t like each other!

My Mother was already married to her first husband, Earl Joseph Wilson (1936), and had my brother Gordon Wilson (1937) when the two of them first met.

In November of 1937 my Dad married his first wife Mildred Marie Shockley and in February 1938 they had a son, Benjamin Hughes. 3 months later Benjamin died of Acute Bronchial Pneumonia. One month later Mildred died of Tuberculosis at the age of 17 years old.

George Lierman newspaper

I do not know what happened to Earl but I do know that by 1940 he was no longer in the picture. My Mother then married George Charles Lierman in Lexington Missouri. They did not have any children. George and my Mother divorced sometime in 1945. George (Charles) remarried and was killed in a house fire in May of 1948. The gas stove in their house exploded and George and his 3 stepsons were the only ones at home. All four died of their burns.

dad, mildred, lolaIn 1945 my Dad married Mildred McQuillen. Although Mildred was only 18 years old she had already been married previously and had a daughter named Loretta. They never had any children together. In early 1948 my Dad and Mildred got divorced.

For 11 years my Mother and Dad saw each other quite often mainly because of the friendship between my Aunt and my Mom MLMother. After his divorce from Mildred my Dad began to drink heavily. I don’t know if he drank much before this time but my Aunt said at this time he would drink anything alcoholic, even rubbing alcohol.  When my parents decided to get married the only condition was that my Dad stops drinking. On December 13, 1948 my parents ran away to Arkansas and got married. My Dad kept his promise and never had another drink.

My parents were married for almost 26 years when my Dad died of lung cancer in 1974. My Mother never remarried and lived until she was 80 years old dying in 1999.

Hughes family Dec 1955This picture is of my Mother, Dad, my sister Mary and me in December of 1955. This was taken shortly before moving from Lexington, Missouri to Tucson, Arizona. That is me sitting on my Mother’s lap.

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, crafter, reader, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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